When You are a Mom Who Works From Home…

Woman and young boy in home office with laptop smilingHerein lies the problem; I have a 3 y.o. who occupies 90% of my time.  The other 10% I spend sleeping, or trying to sleep anyway.  Any suggestions?
That’s the exact wording of an email I received recently. She was apologizing about missing a tele-class I offered.
Being a working mom is challenging, and there are special challenges when your office is at home, but there are some strategies that may help. Here’s my answer to that email:
Have had other clients with similar issues. Here are some of the things they have tried:
  1. Hire a babysitter on a recurring basis for set times each week. This is the time you schedule all your clients/work – and with a 3-year-old, either you or the child will need to be out of the house – they know you’re there and run to Mommy even when they are happy with the babysitter.
  2. Find another mom who is willing to trade times when you take each other’s child, so you each have alone. Again, try to arrange so it is for the same time each week, so you can schedule out in advance.
Hope some of this helped – although it sounds like your first priority with some alone time should be sleep!
And the response: Great ideas. Thank you. I will need some time without the little one underfoot so I can focus.
If you’re a mom who works from home, please share [comment below] other strategies you have tried. What worked well & what failed?

Three Simple Systems That Saved My Sanity

Clock. Time to planSupport systems are important in our personal lives, too. Here’s a post from 2009 that’s illustrates why.

My life changed dramatically in August 2009 when my 87-year-old father fell and required surgery. He was in the hospital for 10 days, then rehab until Oct. 28. What with visiting, acting as patient advocate, and setting up systems to support his return home, I was spending two to three days a week in Santa Barbara. At one point I realized the irony that I was making sure my mother had groceries, but hadn’t had time to do my own grocery shopping in 6 weeks.

Thank goodness I already had three systems in place that really saved my sanity:

  • Bill pay and direct deposit – What a relief to realize that all but one bill (the credit card) was already set up for automatic bill pay, and my husband’s paychecks were on direct deposit. There was no extra work to do. This automation was an additional blessing when I was consumed with my father’s illness – everything got paid without me putting in any work.
  • Dream Dinners – This is what kept food on the table. Once a month my husband and I attend a meal preparation session for an hour and come home with 36 servings of a minimum of 6 entrees we put in the freezer. I’ve been a loyal member for 8 years. In October I didn’t even have time for the one hour monthly session, but the good folks at Dream Dinners prepared my order for me, and I just needed to stop by and pick it up. I even had them make up extras to take to my mother. Another lifesaver!
  • A community of friends and relatives – sometimes we have to accept we are drowning and ask for help. I don’t know what I would have done without my sister, and I cannot come close to expressing my gratitude to her. Another resource was my minister, who used her “minister network” connections in Santa Barbara to publish my request for someone to live-in with my Mom. Although I had also advertised at a local university, it was the congregational appeal that garnered me the most results.

My father died in May, 2010; I still spend one day a week with my mother in Santa Barbara, but it’s planned, and not because of crisis. However, the essence of all disaster planning is to have systems in place, and I encourage you to evaluate what systems you need in place to save your sanity and/or your business. How would your business run if you were sick? [this is essential system #4 on the business systems assessment. If you have not done so yet, you can download this self-assessment from the top right of this page] .