Creating Your Ideal Life

The poet Robinson Jeffers built Tor House in 1916 on a cliff in Carmel, CA. It absolutely enchanted me when I toured it a decade ago. The guide mentioned that every morning Mrs. Jeffers (Una) would sit at her desk in a corner of the peaceful living room and write letters to friends and family. Something about that connected with me on a visceral level, and it became my ideal to create the same habit.

Tor House on Carmel coast, home of poet Robinson JeffersThat is still my (as yet unmet) ideal – but it occurred to me today that Facebook has become a viable substitute. Yes, it is possible to get distracted by cat video posts, but, at heart, Facebook is a way to stay connected with friends and extended family – and take a lot less time than 4 hours every morning to do so – especially if you ignore the animal videos.

I’ve heard people vilify Facebook as nothing but a time suck, but is it really such a bad compromise to substitute less than an hour on Facebook daily for the 4 hours Una Jeffers would schedule to write letters? I don’t think so, especially since I still need to find time for the work that brings in income.

Creating your ideal life is a balancing act. Facebook is part of that balance for me. So is scheduling regular vacation time and hiking time, and one day a week to spend with my elderly mother. I enjoy my work, and I do it better when I honor, and allow time for, all aspects of my life. You do too.

Your weekend is before you; schedule time in it for one aspect of your life you’ve been neglecting.

Make a Difference

Make a difference; give back to your communityIf you had to pick one quote that best reflected who you are, or what you represent, what would it be?

This was my challenge last week. I’ve been honored with an award*, and was asked to provide a bio and short quote for a poster the organization is preparing for the ceremony.

I recommend that everyone have a pre-written bio [see why in my blog post Four Ways to Use Your Qualifying Conversation], but it never occurred to me to have a quote ready.

It’s a handy exercise. In the end it came down to four choices.

This one gives me great solace and hope:

Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.
-Margaret Mead

This is the one that tells you the most about me:

The mountains are calling and I must go.
-John Muir

I like this one for its pragmatism:

You can have it all, just not all at the same time.
―Betty Friedan

Because it needed to be short, and I wanted something more hopeful than the previous quote, this is the one I chose:

There is more to life than increasing its speed.
-Mahatma Gandhi

I like it because it helps reinforce my message that one of the benefits of managing your time is having time for yourself, your family, friends, and hobbies.

Do you have a favorite quote? Share it below in a comment. What do you think it says about you?

*I am honored to receive the 2014 Ventura County Volunteer of the Year Award from Women’s Economic Ventures [WEV] . WEV helps Santa Barbara and Ventura County residents start and grow small businesses through training, loans and consulting. It has been a joy to provide guest lectures on Time Management to WEV’s Self-Employment Training classes beginning in 2000, and consulting to their ‘Thrive in 5’ clients.